In this episode, we interview Jay Hatfield, a long-time traveling businessman who eventually landed a work-from-home job. He shares the difficulties of connecting while on the road and some of the personal-time sacrifices he’s had to make to make family life work. Jay shares how to be a team-player with home duties, the give and take benefits and flexibility with his employer, and some of the healthy boundaries and ground-rules he’s had to implement as a work-from-home dad. Jay shares some wisdom about the self-discipline required and the key to making it a win-win for his boss. You’ll also learn a few tips on how to create a daily routine to get ready for the work day.
“In this episode, Brad introduces and explains the Recovering Workaholic Dads Manifesto or core values. What does it mean to be a workaholic dad in recovery? What guiding principles should drive our everyday thinking and actions?
We’re Intensely Focused on Relationships
We’re Passionate about Connecting With Our Kids
We Live Balanced Lives
We Honor Our Vows as Husbands
We Leave a Family Legacy
We Work Efficiently, Effectively, and Productively
We Leave Work at The Office
We Put Family First
We Are Recovering Workaholic Dads!”
When I talk with folks about how many hours a week they work, I like to get a sense of what is “normal”. The challenge here of course is how do you define “normal”. Normal typically means what MOST people experience.
I think that definition is limited and deceiving in the context of workaholism. For example, if you hang out with a group of guys who regularly drinks a six pack of beer every night, that might be “normal” to you.
If you work in a company where everyone is pulling all-nighters and working every weekend, that might seem “normal” to you based on your experience or the company culture.
However, there is a difference between normal, reasonable, and healthy. So, while working 60+ hours a week on a regular basis might seem normal because everyone around you is doing it, it’s certainly not healthy. Is it reasonable though? Well, that’s completely up to you. If your priorities and values are wrapped up in your salary and title, and you have to work that many hours in return for big bonuses and promotions, then yes, it’s completely reasonable.
But, if you value your wife and kids more than your paycheck, I’d say not only is it not healthy, but it’s also unreasonable to work 60+ hours a week.
It all comes down to your values and priorities. If my company offered me 1 million dollars a year in exchange for 80 hours a week of work, I’d say no thank you. Having 1 million dollars (actually about 600K after taxes) isn’t worth ending up in divorce or separation from my family. I wouldn’t have time for my health, my friends, my family, or anything else in my world that I value just as much if not more than my paycheck. I’d end up with a bag of money, and I’d be standing all by myself at the end of the day…empty and devoid of LIFE. That’s not reasonable, regardless of the amount of money offered. I’d say NO THANK YOU!
So, what about you? What is normal, healthy, and reasonable to you?
Dave Cutillo’s job takes him on the road for months at a time. In this episode, he shares lessons about how working dads can stay proactively connected to their wife and family while traveling.
What does it mean to be a workaholic dad in recovery? What guiding principles should drive our everyday thinking and actions? The answer is our Recovering Workaholic Dads Manifesto. Download and Print Our Manifesto