In a perfect world, you might do both at the same time. But if forced to make a choice, then working TO live is better and more rewarding. Ie. the work is what provides the money to allow you to do what you really want to do (which is hopefully not more work). Living to work can be a pretty dismal existence.
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If you’ve tried and failed in the past, the best thing to do is acknowledge you can’t do it alone and find someone to be your accountability partner. Such a person can help you tremendously if you want to achieve your goals.
- Delegate (if possible) lower level tasks (ie. tasks other people can do with a small dose of instruction and follow-up).
- Also, FOCUS on the most important things you can be doing in your role.
- Say NO to distractions or things that keep you from focusing on your most important tasks.
Also, if you find yourself working long hours, nights and weekends, revisit numbers 1–3 above.
I would choose the lower paying job with shorter hours so you could spend more time with family and friends.
If you work really long hours for the higher pay, you can end up without family and friends around you to love and who love you back.
There are plenty of rich folks out there that neglected their families…and only too late in life discovered that their life, while full of possessions, was utterly empty due to the loss of close people in their lives. Having folks around you that are only there to benefit from your cash flow is pretty hollow.
So, work reasonable hours and focus on connecting with your family and friends, and you will be rich indeed!
I’d say step one is to lower the bar and give yourself some grace. You are to be congratulated for putting yourself through school. It’s hard to work and go to school, and so you should be proud of that. So, one way to take care of yourself is to make sure you are forgiving yourself for not being able to do all that you want to do. One day, you’ll be done with school, and you’ll have more and more opportunities to do fun things.
I’d also suggest you write out a short list of things you’d like to do for fun. Maybe it’s reading a book, or developing a friendship, or going to a concert, etc. Then, put those on a calendar just like you do for your work hours or your classroom hours. If necessary, take a day off now and then so you can do what you need to do for yourself.